The AdopTwins

I read an article in The Korean Herald about the trauma that adoptee’s children inherit from their adoptive parent. You know, the generational trauma. It made me think that I too am selfish. I’ve come across  a lot of adoptees who call adoptive parents selfish. That their need to be a parent outweighed the trauma it does to the child. I longed to be part of a family for so long and always thought, “Once I have a child I will have a family. I won’t be alone anymore. I’ll finally be part of a family.” But was that selfish of me? To pass my trauma on to my child just to fulfill my need to feel a sense of belonging in a family? This is something I am going to need to sit with for a while and I believe I will probably need to come to terms with. Fellow adoptees, what are your thoughts on this? Sound off in the comments. – Meg